​​A fresh, nuanced view of Zen integrates relational and emotional skill-building with traditional practices in a spiritual “cross-training” approach suited for the unique demands of modern life.​

This compelling and innovative view of Zen practice gives people in their 20s and 30s a contemporary approach to spiritual development that is meaningful and actionable within the complexities of modern life. Grounded deeply in the tradition of Soto Zen, professional mediators and Zen practitioners, Diane Hamilton and Gabriel Wilson extol the virtues of sitting meditation, dharma study, and the student-teacher relationship. At the same time, they offer insight into the importance of emotional development and the maturation of relationship skills. This approach draws on insights from Integral psychology as taught by philosopher Ken Wilber, neurophysiology, trauma work, adult development, and teachings of the Zen masters to

• develop interpersonal communication skills;  

• blend the spiritual path with the realities of contemporary life; 

• learn how to navigate issues of inclusivity and diversity; 

• explore issues of identity; 

• train our power of attention rather than get caught up in social media, division, and crisis; 

• mature our emotional and relational skills;

• and much more. 

Complete with practices, exercises, and reflections in each chapter, this book offers an accessible, insightful approach to becoming more personally effective, compassionate, and spiritually awake.

DIANE MUSHO HAMILTON is an award-winning professional mediator, author, and teacher of Zen meditation. She is the cofounder of Two Arrows Zen and founder of Real LIFE programs in Utah. She is the author of Everything Is Workable, The Zen of You and Me, and Compassionate Conversations.  

GABRIEL MENEGALE WILSON is a conflict mediator and team coach, trainer for the Real LIFE programs, and senior practitioner in the Two Arrows Zen practice. He is a coauthor of Compassionate Conversations.